A 35-year-old woman, who has been with her partner for three years and married for one, discovered something surprising when she accidentally came across his Christmas wish list.
Usually, they bought and gave gifts on their own. But this time, she felt upset when she saw that her husband was choosing expensive gifts for friends and family, and only getting a less expensive one for her.
At the top of his list were fancy gifts, like a $600 watch for a co-worker, a $250 bracelet for his sister-in-law, and $900 workout gear for a friend. Curious to see what special gift he had in mind for her, the woman was surprised to find her name next to a set of kitchen spoons made of stainless steel, valued at around $20.
She was Upset, she told her husband she was sad because he didn’t think about her feelings. He argued that he could buy whatever he wanted with his money. But she explained that it wasn’t about the gift’s value, it was about him not being considerate, which made her feel hurt.
The argument got worse. I told him he was disrespecting me and not caring about my feelings with the gift he picked. I also mentioned that I spend a lot of money on gifts for him, like his favorite shoes or gaming brands.
“He got mad and told me I was acting like a spoiled brat who doesn’t appreciate things. He wanted me to change my attitude and be grateful for what he was giving me. The argument got worse, and now we’re not talking to each other.”
The woman went on Reddit to ask for advice, and people there supported her feelings. One person said, “If a coworker spent more on me than on their own spouse, I would find it really strange.” Another person added, “If my brother-in-law got me a $250 bracelet, I’d feel very uncomfortable. Especially if he only spent $20 on spoons for his wife, I’d be shocked.”
Some people on Reddit cautioned the woman, saying her husband’s actions were warning signs. One person mentioned, “It’s a big warning sign if he gives gifts to everyone else but not to his significant other and still expects them to give him nice things. That’s really disrespectful.”
Most people on Reddit agreed that the woman’s feelings were reasonable, and they thought her husband’s actions were a cause for serious thinking about the future of their relationship.